Wednesday, October 13, 2010

to cut or not to cut. that is the question.

When your son has to correct around four or five people a day when they say, "Isn't she pretty?", it can kind of crush all that testosterone. Especially when he's decked out in boy colours, a hoodie, jeans, and up to his ears in larakin behaviour.

My boy is so pretty that if you put his hair back in a pony tail he looks like the sweetest girl. And it's not only his face. When he was a wee lad, he had curls like this:


Because he has a father who has hair like this:

So naturally, now he's old enough to notice, he wants his hair long. Just like Daddy.

But it's not like Daddy's.

You see, I love curly long hair on guys (hence the wise decision to marry someone with amazingly good hair). But straight long hair on guys... not a fan.

And that's where the problem lies.

When Madison had ringlets and curls, I happily let his hair grow quite long. (Not as long as Daddy would have liked it - he never would have cut it), but it's gotten a bit longer than his shoulders so as not to confuse too many people (not that it made much difference).

But now he's on his way to turning five, the curls have all but disappeared. And his hair is getting straighter. And straighter. To add to the confusion, a boy who is this pretty, with long hair, AND called Madison; he may get a complex if we're not careful.

So now hubby and I disagree. I think it needs to be a tiny bit shorter than it currently is, while hubby still wants it long.

What do you think? Do you like long hair on small boys?


  1. It is very good that your son wants tp have his hear long. I think that he looks perfectly with long hair like his father. My son likes doing boxing and would like to look like Mike Tyson - without hair at all.

  2. Snip snip snip, it will still grow pretty quick, give shorter a try, if it doesn't work for you all, it will be longer again in 3 months. I agree, long straight hair on men, no thanks!

  3. Cut it - it'll always grow back if he doesn't like it.

    .... as a girl with short hair, I'll never forget the humiliation of a half-blind great aunt say, "Now whose son are you?" when I walked by.

    I was forteen. Wearing a tennis skirt and a bra!

  4. My son had long,dark,thick hair until he was four. Same son also has thick long eyelashes. He was constantly told how pretty he was.
    One day he went shopping with his dad, who was in the Army at the time, and came home with a short-back-and-sides. Dad had had enough of people thinking his son was a girl. I was upset for weeks.
    Son is now 35 and shaves his head every week.

  5. Well, I think when it comes to the next haircut, it's going to go significantly shorter, but not shaved or number two-ed! And Kath, I'm hearing you, I've been referred to as a boy on several occasions (yes, I was short haired too) and I think that is half my reticence to keep up the misunderstandings and do something about it. Of course, my husband will never take my son out and give him short back and sides. Not this woman's husband!


Thank you for your thoughtful and positive words and taking the time to comment. Love Kymmie. xx